Tuesday, April 15, 2008

I'm not sure what to do about this

During my mid-morning email check I found a MySpace message - Three had sent me a message - I'm thinking it would be the rant I was expecting - you know like the one that should have come when I said I wasn't coming, the whole I gave all this time, you cold hearted bitch - funny enough I got the opposite - a smug pseudo best wishes message. I'm not so sure what to say, other than I know my response right now is heavily leaning towards not polite so I think keeping my fingers off the keyboard is the safest for all involved. So once I had gotten over that shock, I get not only a comment on my Facebook, but also a Myspace message from S - um, I know we ended on semi-polite terms but since when were we friends? I mean I think I can deal with this - the friend thing, but um why? Is this some universal joke - a moment to remember the mess I left in my wake this spring? A reminder that I really haven't got a clue how to do all this, all the fairy tales and Hollywood endings are hollow but what else do I have to go on?

8 comments:

Chris Robinson said...

There isn't much worse than dealing with somebody you broke up with. Its almost worse when its not bad. Then you know how to deal with them...when you get along ok but you're just not right together it just turns in to one big confusing mess.

aaaand...you're not very good at not blogging. : )

i'm not complaining. im just saying.

LeahA said...

who the heck is 'S'

Jenn said...

Shelby.

I know Chris - I doing an amazing job at the non-blogging thing. I don't have a problem talking with Shelby - though I can't see why we need to- you know? As to Three, um ya I've got issues with that boy's behaviour/maturing and to prevent me from being unnecessarily blunt, I am avoiding that one

cheryl said...

hmm. my post didnt' work?

anyway:

leaha! haha i had the same thought!!

which was followed by, shawn? she broke up with shawn?

LeahA said...

well i dont think it was a real "break-up"..who breaks up these days anyways right???
and oh ya Shelby... I think I remember him...

Jenn said...

Apparently no one breaks up these days... for shame though - life works better that way. I don't know what to do about these boys - the other S included - I think I need to become a recluse - since I know the artwork I have planned in 3-4 weeks sure ain't going to do it for me consider these boys... Darn. Being a pacifist vegan feminist doesn't seem to be repelling people like it use to.

Shawn said...

How the hell did I get dragged into this?

cheryl said...

.... i came across this tonight, and although i've read it many times before, i thought it might be encouraging:
1 Co 7 ...Each one should remain in the situation he was in when God called him. Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you-although if you can gain your freedom, do so. ... - {i think this means to be content in your situation, and if it happens changes, then lucky break!}...You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to. {by no means am i saying that god has called you to celibacy and nun-hood...i think it's still saying that you should be content in your god-given situation}. Now about virgins...becasue of the present crisis, I think it is good for you to remain as you are.....those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this. What I mean brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none....those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them....I would like you to be free from concern.

{and here, for me, is the crux of the matter, and words that i fully agree with}:
An unmarried man is concerned with the Lord's affairs - how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world - how he can please his wife - and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world - how she can please her husband. I am saying this to you for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

we studied the fruits of the spirit in my bible study group, and while there are ones that i certainly need to focus on in my life, what's become evident to me is that i need to be more "gentle." it's really hard for me to talk to anyone about scripture because it often comes across as teachy or preachy or that i'm up on a soapbox, and i really sense my need to become more gentle. so i hope you take this as the farthest thing from condemning or even beginning to know what your life is like, but as a friend who loves you and who came across this tonight and whose thoughts were drawn to you.

because if i can't talk about the bible with you, then who CAN i talk about the bible with?