Personally if my brain does leave my body and I do get married I sure am not taking his name. Why? Well as I said to Cheryl re: keeping the name....
"I am keeping my name, but no hyphenating business. Hyphens are too much stress for me - the lit world has too much to say about them for me to saddle myself with that kind of responsibility"
Cheryl's response - "Far be it for there to be a woman writer with a hyphenated name - it really does sound absurd - like all the feminism that brought her to get published work and yet she's weighed down by the hyphenated name"
Bingo! Anyways - I am happy for all who have birthed and chained themselves to the archaic institution - me, well I'm working it out and whenever I have a Bronte or Austen moment I look at these and it all goes away... hmmm vegan handmade stilettos.
For literary discourse on hyphens.
1. Gaston, Sean. Derrida and the History. Textual Practice 21.2, June 2007.
"The hyphen brings together what can never absolutely be brought together: there is always a gap. As Derrida suggested in a 1996 paper on Artaud, the hyphen appears to make one out of two, but this two-in-one also indicates what is always more than one."
2. Wah, Fred. "Half-Bred Poetics." Author of Diamond Grill
"in the middle, . . . not in the centre. . . . a property marker, a boundary post, a borderland, a bastard, a railroad, a last spike, a stain, a cypher, a rope, a knot, a chain (link), a foreign word, a warning sign, a head tax, a bridge, a no-man's land, a nomadic, floating, magic carpet, now you see it now you don't."
If you are still interested check out Hyphen or Rice Paper, as while discourse on the hyphen related issues go beyond Asian Canadian/American literature from what I have read it is most fervently discussed in these venues. And you all thought I was crazy about the hyphen issue.