Thursday, November 29, 2007

This may come out weird

But I'm going to attempt to do this under duress - decaffeinating, lack of sleep, stress and CPAFLA protocols rolling around aimlessly in my brain. Leah without the A asked in a comment - why AM I still single? I can't answer that, but I can answer why I want to be... well sort of.

Okay, let's get this straight - I don't hate men, I am in parts frustrated with them, but I'm sure that's an overall two way street - so it's minor. And honestly - like at the end of the movie - That Thing You Do, I'm dying to be good and kissed, of course that feeling wanes from time to time. And note - if anyone uses this line on me - that's not good.

Regardless, reasons why I'm still single are for the majority practical -

1. I don't believe in just dating someone - so therefore if you aren't marriage material regardless of whatever my intestinal tract does when you're around, it isn't going to happen. So that being said I've basically eliminated everyone... and likely BMMWH

2. Dating for the purposes of marriage - if we're dating, there is a limited time on that relationship - in that the longer the relationship goes on the harder it is to maintain a healthy level of intimacy within boundaries.

3. The above two noted, that while I wouldn't mind being married at 27 or 28 or maybe in my thirties - though I would have to say a part of myself just cringed at having to type that - it is because I have a season of personal growth and healing I need to go through as well as getting to the point where there is a clearing direction. Being married means I can't randomly pack up and move anywhere - nor can I just decide to undertake a degree at Regent because it could be a good idea - things become more defined within a marriage situation, especially as you get older and the feeling of responsibilities like children and all that start to weight in as well.

Hopefully that answers your question Leah without the A, and btw - no he hasn't emailed me yet...

T-shirt available at Humanitaire

10 comments:

leah said...

jenn, jenn, jenn... i didn't ask WHY you were still single. I asked why you didn't want to date til January 09?! But good blog nonetheless. I actually have those views on "dating" as well. And I'm also still single because that hot guy you both have a crush on hasn't met me yet. =)

LOL to the shirt. It makes me want to be vegan!

Shawn said...

You know I would leave a comment, but last time I did that I caught a ration of shit from your friends for like four consecutive blogs...

Therrian said...

For your own personal sanity shawn, I would highly suggest avoiding any discussion about the logic involved in Jenn not dating anyone. Men were not designed to understand that level of insanity.

Jenn said...

Yes, Joel it is insanity and at one point in time I think you almost put up with it - see what a bullet you dodged. Shawn - comment - it's my blog - but know that I give Cheryl that free reign too.

Shawn said...

That was supposed to be funny, if you haven't noticed through a few of our conversations I don't give a hoot about what people think of me.

Okay, maybe I care how a few people think of me, but I am working on a tolerance to those as well.

LeahA said...

Jenn is secretly dating someone she just want anyone to know, but i found out one afternoon.. he is pretty awesome but she wont let me meet him until they are engaged..its sad really but good too..she kinda inspires me not to just wanna date around... keeps me on the straight and narrow...

Jenn said...

Leaha, that was suppose to be our secret! No cookies for you

LeahA said...

when i dont sleep the secrets just pour out of me like fine wine

juicyjay said...

I hate it when people ask WHY you are still single, as if its within a single girl's control. We still live in a society in which it is still not really kosher for a girl to make a strong first move. (or at least that's what the christian boys tell us. Phooey on them.)

My gynecologist once admonished me that I need to be careful to have a baby soon, lest I try to spring a fetus from shriveled, mid-30's eggs past their prime! I say the same thing to her as I say to this post:

DUH. If it was in my control, I wouldn't be in this mess.

SHAWN: I say, comment anyway. This blog has a lack of Y chromosomes most of the time. We need to hear from you.

LEAHA: So, I don't get it. I'm sleep deprived too, and so I'm incapable of understanding whether you are joking. Fill a girl in!

Jenn said...

Sorry Ms. JJ, Leaha best be joking... I'm not aware of anyone. But speaking of one - BMMWH - wanna come to 10th and check it out and possibly see the elussive one? There are cookies involved... I made lots and lots of vegan cookies - chocolate chip, mint milano's and ginger cookies