Friday, November 2, 2007

Tidbit

I do not plan on taking my husband's name - that's right... mine is mine and that's it. Before you scream bloody murder about feminism and all this - I am not taking my husband's name because my parents arranged my initials to mean something very significant. I am born on the same day as many people - Marilyn Monroe, my cousin Melissa (10 hours apart) and my grandfather - Jacob. My initials are J-K-A-B a more or less phonic pronunciation of Jacob. So that's why no name change. As to the whole hyphenating business - it's awful, I've blogged about it.

Postscript - options on this topic - I know Cheryl isn't taking Andrew's name and Leaha doesn't intend on giving up her name. Is it not just a patriarchal remnant of the property concept - to take a name is a public indication of being claimed?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

what if you met someone with a last name beginning with B?

Jenn said...

I guess that would work, kind of attached to having a Mennonite last name though...

Jenn said...

so I guess there it is two factors involved, but that's putting the cart miles ahead of the horse - I would have to find someone and I sure am not eliminating men on their last names now - considering the limiting factors of dietary practices, faith and political leaning have already made the picking nonexistent.

that being said, still like my last name, so more than likely nope...

Anonymous said...

As for the facebook comment in the attached post, I don't think they all actually hyphenate their names. They just include their maiden name for those people who only knew them before they were married. That way if somebody from say elementary school or highschool is searching for them under that name, they will still be able to find them in the search engine.

Jenn said...

Well yes some do include both names, but the ones that I was referring to were actually hyphenated versus the ones who either include their maiden name or those who being traditionalists just don't include their maiden name - and we still find them. The other blog was part of a larger conversation of names - as indicated by the short conversation imported from MSN. Overall take home message from that blog was hyphenating is ridiculous from a social/literary perspective - leaving two options take the name or don't - I'm not the don't side of things, however that being said if I were referred to as Mrs. ___ I would not be offended.

Jenn said...

bah, I hate having anonymous comments... but I have to say oh anonymous your first questioned bothers me, in the back of my mind kind of way... there is an implication in the statement that there is a B last named individual out there for me...